In my last post, I discussed how everyday household objects like vegetable brushes become enjoyable play objects for infants and toddlers up to 3 years old. I’m adding an additional suggestion into the mix, as I’ve witnessed first-hand how infants and toddlers relish this particular brush.Read More
I realize by writing this, I'm going completely going against the grain on what most pediatricians say and what most parents do... But, my belief in natural gross motor development is too strong. (And Dr. Emmi Pikler's research is too compelling.) So, please read the following with an open mind!
RIE® practitioners have hundreds upon thousands of hours of experience observing infants without intervening in their natural movement. As a result, we commence every Certified Parent-Infant Guidance™ Course with one rule: please start the class by placing your babies on their backs. Why?Read More
Imagine that a baby picks up a red ball. He explores it by touching it. How tight does he need to clutch it to hold onto it? He’s just learning his gripping skills, so it takes time for him to find a strong handle. Once he understands that it is malleable, he grips it tighter to see how it changes shape within his hand. The ball comes to life as his hand moves. Shadows appear and disappear. He lifts it above his head and understands that its weight is light. Then he decides to let go to see how it will drop on the ground. His full attention in on the ball dropping; he is a scientist as he begins to understand the ball’s properties. And then, an adult walks into the room and asks, “What color is that ball?”Read More
The sharing epidemic is taking over: parents from Central Park to the Brooklyn Library are charged with helicoptering. They are either too involved in children’s play or not giving children enough time to play on their own. As Erika Christakis puts it in an NPR article that come out earlier this month, “we're underestimating kids in terms of their enormous capacity to be thoughtful and reflective...Read More
One of the things that adults resort to is the belief that they have to guide the gross motor development of infants and toddlers. I have seen it over and over, and every time, I shudder. It is “anti-nature” at its core. The underlying belief is that infants and toddlers need our guidance to do what they are intended to do: sit up, crawl, and walk. This feeds right into the problem that adults view babies as helpless, incapable of learning without our assistance, and without intrinsic self-motivation. Rather than trusting the natural development process, we force it along....Read More
I have observed a number of daycares and early childhood centers as a part of my RIE training. They range vastly in terms of quality of care, environment, philosophy, etc. However, almost every daycare for infants and toddlers (0-3 years old) is missing two things – and their absence baffles anyone who understands attachment theory...Read More
Recently, I went to the playground with my friends and their child. While there, I saw a lot of things that caused me discomfort. I saw a parent putting his child top of a play structure with stairs leading up to a short slide (not more than a few feet of the ground). The child immediately started to cry. After spending almost an hour there, I realized that these types of interactions were relatively common: adults putting toddlers on play equipment like bikes, slides, and stairs when the children have no expressed interest in them. In most cases, the children are also not developmentally ready for it.Read More