Never underestimate the appeal of seemingly ordinary household objects as play objects for children. In fact, they remain some of the most reliable toys to add to a play environment to keep a young child cognitively engaged. Toys should be simple in order to stimulate a child’s imagination. According to Magda Gerber, "passive toys = active babies." So how can a vegetable brush become so alluring to older infants and toddlers?Read More
Discipline. It’s a complex topic, and inevitably brings up many issues around how we were raised (the past) and what types of manners or values we want to instill in children (the future). As the founder of RIE® Magda Gerber said, “we are raising children based on how we were raised, yet we are preparing them for an unknown future. The whole thing is absurd.”Read More
As a nanny, I understand that caring for young children is a daunting task. We’re haunted by the belief that we can do better or we’re not doing enough – or maybe aren’t taking adequate care of the household of our employers.
But, what if your role as a nanny could be boiled down to two roles? Not only would this simplify your job, but it might also make the day much more enjoyable. Magda Gerber, an early childhood expert and Founder of RIE, an organization dedicated to improving the quality of infant care and education, believed that caregivers and parents oscillate between two roles: we either “want something” or “want nothing” from children. But what does that even mean?Read More
The sharing epidemic is taking over: parents from Central Park to the Brooklyn Library are charged with helicoptering. They are either too involved in children’s play or not giving children enough time to play on their own. As Erika Christakis puts it in an NPR article that come out earlier this month, “we're underestimating kids in terms of their enormous capacity to be thoughtful and reflective...Read More
As New Yorkers, we often tout the virtues of slowing down. Many of us carve out yoga, meditation, or workouts as a time to relax and deliberately unwind. But, have you ever thought a diaper change as a time to relax and rejuvenate with your baby? Probably not! Most of us have the opposite reaction; we want rush through this unsavory process to get to the “real” bonding or playing.Read More
One of the things that adults resort to is the belief that they have to guide the gross motor development of infants and toddlers. I have seen it over and over, and every time, I shudder. It is “anti-nature” at its core. The underlying belief is that infants and toddlers need our guidance to do what they are intended to do: sit up, crawl, and walk. This feeds right into the problem that adults view babies as helpless, incapable of learning without our assistance, and without intrinsic self-motivation. Rather than trusting the natural development process, we force it along....Read More
I have observed a number of daycares and early childhood centers as a part of my RIE training. They range vastly in terms of quality of care, environment, philosophy, etc. However, almost every daycare for infants and toddlers (0-3 years old) is missing two things – and their absence baffles anyone who understands attachment theory...Read More