How often do we let babies experience "flow?"

Imagine that a baby picks up a red ball. He explores it by touching it. How tight does he need to clutch it to hold onto it? He’s just learning his gripping skills, so it takes time for him to find a strong handle. Once he understands that it is malleable, he grips it tighter to see how it changes shape within his hand. The ball comes to life as his hand moves. Shadows appear and disappear. He lifts it above his head and understands that its weight is light. Then he decides to let go to see how it will drop on the ground. His full attention in on the ball dropping; he is a scientist as he begins to understand the ball’s properties. And then, an adult walks into the room and asks, “What color is that ball?”

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Do You Want Something or Nothing from a Baby?

As a nanny, I understand that caring for young children is a daunting task. We’re haunted by the belief that we can do better or we’re not doing enough – or maybe aren’t taking adequate care of the household of our employers.

But, what if your role as a nanny could be boiled down to two roles? Not only would this simplify your job, but it might also make the day much more enjoyable.  Magda Gerber, an early childhood expert and Founder of RIE, an organization dedicated to improving the quality of infant care and education, believed that caregivers and parents oscillate between two roles: we either “want something” or “want nothing” from children. But what does that even mean?

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